Why Do I Resent the People I Chose to Help?
You said yes to every piece of it and nobody made you, which is exactly why the low gritty feeling that arrives when their name lights up your phone seems to have no right to exist.
Five Long Exhales
Most advice on how to stop an anxiety spiral starts with the thoughts. The thoughts were never in charge of it.
The Kitchen at 11 P.M. and Something You Said in 2009
Why do I replay embarrassing memories from decades ago? Involuntary retrieval is a documented mode of remembering. What the research shows, and one move.
I Assumed You’d Say No. I Never Checked.
Somewhere along the way you became the reliable one, and asking for help when you’re the capable one started to feel like breaking a rule nobody ever actually wrote down.
You Reread Her Two-Word Reply Looking for the Tone
Why do I assume people are annoyed with me over a short reply? Research calls it the liking gap. What the studies found, and the rule that interrupts it.
You Didn’t Go Flat. Your Immune System Got Loud.
The mood dip gets filed under hormones and closed. Inflammation and mood in menopause turn out to be linked too, and your immune system does not stay quiet about it.
You Took Your Mother’s Call in the Car Park, Between Two Meetings
Two households run on your attention and neither of them knows about the other. The numbers on what that costs landed in February, and women aged 40 to 54 sit at the top of them.
Nobody Assigned It. You Just Opened the Document.
Why do I always take the notes, book the room, chase the actions? Economists measured this in 2017. What the research found, and the sentence that helps.
Tired All the Time? The Midlife Energy Drains That Aren’t Laziness
Tired all the time midlife exhaustion is rarely about laziness or poor sleep alone. What’s actually draining your energy, plus one sleep anchor to try tonight.
Why Do I Dread a Job I’m Still Good At?
Nothing is wrong. Your reviews are good. You have started dreading Tuesday. There is now a name for this, it is a ridiculous name, and the numbers underneath it are not ridiculous at all.
