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Evidence Review · The Reading Room, Vol. 123 · 8 min read · what the research that named languishing actually measured, and why the middle of the scale matters more than it looks

Nothing is wrong. That is the problem with it. The word “languishing” spread in 2021, but it was coined twenty years earlier by a sociologist who measured it in thousands of adults and found it was common, costly, and easy to miss because it never looks like an emergency.

The short answer: languishing is the absence of mental wellbeing rather than the presence of mental illness: life feels flat, purpose and interest fade, and you function without really flourishing. In a study of 3,032 American adults, 12.1% met the criteria for it, and languishing adults were about twice as likely as moderately well adults to have had a major depressive episode in the past year.¹ It is not depression, but it is worth taking seriously, and it tends to move.

The diary is full and every entry happens. The project ships, the dinner gets cooked, the birthday card goes in the post with a stamp on it. Someone asks how she is and she says “fine,” and it is not a lie. She is not sad. She is not anxious, particularly. She just cannot remember the last time something made her lean forward. The weekend arrives and she looks at it the way you look at a form that needs filling in.

If you have been waiting for it to turn into something with a name, so you would know whether to worry, it already has one.

Jump to: What it is · Languishing or depression · Why it matters · Why it settles in at midlife · What helps · Questions women actually ask

What is languishing?

Keyes started from a simple observation: mental health is usually defined by what is missing. No depression, no anxiety disorder, therefore healthy. He proposed measuring what is present instead. Positive feelings, such as interest in life and satisfaction with it, and positive functioning: a sense of purpose, personal growth, warm relationships, feeling that you contribute something and belong somewhere.¹

Score high on enough of those and you are flourishing. Score low and you are languishing. Most people sit in between.¹ The word he chose is exact. Languishing is not collapse. It is stagnation, a life that keeps running while the colour drains out of it.

The term reached a wider audience in April 2021, when organisational psychologist Adam Grant wrote in The New York Times that languishing might be the dominant emotion of that year. Millions of readers recognised it. Many of them were still recognising it long after the circumstances that prompted the essay had passed.

Is languishing the same as depression?

No, and the difference is the point of the whole idea. In Keyes’s data, 14.1% of adults had a major depressive episode in the past year. Of those, most were not languishing, and some languishing adults had no depressive episode at all.¹ The two overlap, but they are not the same thing. Depression is the presence of an illness. Languishing is the absence of wellbeing.

In daily life the difference often shows up like this. Depression tends to bring low mood most of the day, loss of pleasure in almost everything, changes in sleep and appetite, and sometimes guilt or hopelessness that will not lift. Languishing is quieter. You can still laugh at a good joke. You are not in pain. You are just not particularly interested, and you have stopped expecting to be.

If what you feel is closer to the right-hand column, or if it has lasted more than two weeks and is getting in the way of your days, the right step is a doctor rather than an article. We set out the burnout side of that question in tired is not the test.

Why does languishing matter if nothing is wrong?

Because the research suggests the middle of the scale is not a safe resting place. Keyes found that languishing adults were about twice as likely as moderately well adults to have had a depressive episode in the past year, and nearly six times as likely as flourishing adults.¹ Flourishing and moderately well adults also did better on measures of everyday functioning.¹

The more hopeful finding came later. Following people over roughly ten years, Keyes and colleagues found that where people sat on the scale changed over time, and that the direction of change predicted later risk of mental illness: moving down raised it, moving up lowered it.² Languishing is not a fixed trait. It is a position, and positions shift.

Languishing often settles in when a life is all output and very little intake. Seeing exactly where your time and attention go is the first step to changing it. Start here.

Why does languishing settle in at midlife?

The research does not single out midlife women, so this part is interpretation rather than finding. But look at what Keyes measured: purpose, growth, warm relationships, contribution, belonging.¹ Then look at the shape of a demanding life at fifty. The growth happened years ago and now it is maintenance. Contribution is real but invisible, mostly logistics. Friendships have shrunk to a group chat. The purpose that drove the last twenty years, getting there, has been reached.

Nothing on that list is a crisis. Together they describe a life optimised for function, with the parts that produce wellbeing quietly removed. We looked at a related pattern, the narrowing of the rooms you get to be a person in, in you didn’t change, your life got narrower.

How do you stop languishing?

By adding back the specific things the scale measures, in small amounts, rather than waiting to feel motivated. Motivation is what languishing removes, so it cannot be the starting point.

The practice here is the weekly intake hour. Once a week, protect one uninterrupted hour for something with three features: it absorbs you, it stretches you a little, and nobody else needs it from you. Learning the next three chords. A long walk somewhere new with a camera. Drafting the thing you used to want to write. The phone goes in another room, because languishing feeds on the half-attention of a day split into fragments.

Then add one small act of contribution or connection that is chosen rather than required. Calling the friend you only text. Teaching someone at work the thing you are quietly good at. These sound minor because they are. They map directly onto the functioning Keyes measured, and the follow-up research suggests that moving up the scale, even from languishing to moderate, is what changes the risk.²

Give it six weeks before judging it. If the flatness deepens instead, or tips into the depression column above, that is the moment to see a doctor.

Questions women actually ask about this

What are the signs of languishing?

Feeling flat or aimless, losing interest without being sad, going through the motions, struggling to concentrate, and not looking forward to much. People who are languishing often function well on the outside. The defining feature is low wellbeing: little sense of purpose, growth or connection, without necessarily any mental illness.¹

Who coined the term languishing?

Sociologist Corey Keyes defined it in a 2002 study as the absence of mental health, at the low end of a continuum running up to flourishing.¹ Adam Grant brought it to a wide audience in a 2021 New York Times essay.

Is languishing a mental illness?

No. It describes low wellbeing, not a diagnosis, and many languishing adults have no mental illness. It is linked to a higher risk of depression, about twice that of moderately well adults in Keyes’s data, which is a reason to take it seriously.¹

How do you get out of languishing?

By rebuilding the parts of wellbeing it drains: interest, purpose, growth and connection. Protected time for absorbing activities and small chosen acts of contribution are practical starting points. Research following adults over ten years found that moving up the wellbeing scale lowered later risk of mental illness.²

For the bigger idea underneath this, that the thoughts running your days are not always telling you the truth, start with our guide: you have been right for thirty years.

On the research. The 2002 figures come from a 1995 national survey of US adults and are now three decades old; rates today may differ. Wellbeing was self-reported. The association with depression is correlational. The intake hour is a practical application of what the scale measures, not a tested treatment.

References
1. Keyes CLM. The mental health continuum: From languishing to flourishing in life. Journal of Health and Social Behavior. 2002;43(2):207–222.
2. Keyes CLM, Dhingra SS, Simoes EJ. Change in level of positive mental health as a predictor of future risk of mental illness. American Journal of Public Health. 2010;100(12):2366–2371.

Written by Tomasz Nowak for Blue Leaf Journal.